Get What You Want in Nine Steps
by Agnes Lau
How is your progress towards getting what you want in life?
Not getting what you want? Do you in fact know what you want?
If we do not know what specifically, how will be know that we’ve got it?
Goal setting gives us a framework for becoming clear about what we desire out of life. Keeping our goals specific ensures we can achieve them.
For instance we all want happiness but since this search is ongoing throughout our lives, we might find ourselves dissatisfied that we never achieve this, because we haven’t truly defined the signposts and milestones of what happiness means.
The indispensable first step to getting the things you want out of life is this:
Decide what you want.
But if we can set big goals, then break them down into smaller, more easily accomplished daily parts, We will become more aware that we can actually achieve more than we think. So if one part of happiness for Tom means being able to give something back to the community, then by setting aside two hours a week for community work, he would have achieved some success towards his goal.
So, set goals for the various aspects of your life – mental, health, emotional, financial, career, family, relationships, social, spiritual, etc.
Write down your goals, and look at them to keep them in mind.
Use the Keys To An Achievable Outcome method:
1. State it specifically, in the positive.
2. Specify your present situation.
3. Specify what you will see, hear and feel when you have achieved it.
4. What evidence do you need to know you have achieved it?
5. Is it congruently desirable?
6. Make sure it is self-initiated and self-maintained.
7. Where, how, when, and with whom do you want it?
8. What resources do you need?
9. Is it ecological? What will you gain or lose if you have it?
Q. Five birds sat on a windowsill. One decided to fly off. How many birds were left?
A. Five Is there a gap between what you decide to do and what you actually do?
The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is NOW.
If you tried to do something and failed, you are vastly better off than if you tried to do nothing and succeeded. The most important thing to keep in mind is continuous progress.
When you’re through changing, you’re through.